Dear Mocha
Anger especially out of spite is so dangerous. I feel like anger can detach you from who you are momentarily. You say things and do things to get a negative reaction, instead of how you would normally handle the situation. You become a less reasonable and an immature person. Eventually you'll get used to reacting out of anger and it will become your norm. No friend, family member or loved one wants to be around someone who harbors anger. This is something that took me a long time to fully grasp. It's a lesson I'm still learning and struggle with from time to time.
If you find yourself in a situation where all you want to do is lash out in a fit of rage try this first:
- Remove yourself from the situation. Put your phone away or computer away or walk away. It's hard to take a step back from a situation when your rage is telling you other wise. It's hard to bite your tounge when all you want to do is go off. But before you allow your self to be hateful step back.
- Breathe. Collect yourself. Think about something else for a minute or go to your "happy place" but don't dwell on it and let your rage build. Mentally remove yourself from the situation as well as physically.
- After you've taken a minute to clear your head try to see the situation in another way or point of view. Approach the situation in a place outside of anger.
- Most importantly. Stay calm and release it. Being in a constant state of anger and hate is such a waste of time and precious life. It's makes you stressed, undesirable, bitter and lonely. No one wants to live their life that way. I don't want you to live your life that way.
Being able to control your anger is such a sign of maturity and self control. You'll be a better and happier person I promise. If you let your anger get the best of you, you'll never be satisfied with the the outcome. That anger will stay with you. You'll want to continue to lash out. I know I've been there. I've felt like I need verbally thrash someone because maybe I'd feel better after, but you won't because anger and revenge is never fulfilling or satisifing. Be a happier person and let it go. You'll always come out on top and a better person if you learn to not let your anger get the best of you.
As Mark Twain once said "anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than anything on which it is poured"
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Stay happy
Love,
Mickey
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