Monday, April 14, 2014

Imperfect friends

Dear Mocha 

  I've talked about a lot about friends on this blog. Mostly about how friends are towards you and what you allow and all that good stuff. What about you as a friend? Are you a good friend? No one is perfect so no one can be the perfect friend. Like any good relationship there will be ups and downs. But that's what makes your relationship stronger. How you're willing to work through problems and understand each other builds a better relationship. 

  What about when you're in the wrong? Can you say when you're wrong? Are you willing to admit when you're wrong? If I'm being honest I'm not always. Especially when it comes to friends. I don't know why. You expect arguments with parents, siblings, and significant others but with friends it's different. It shouldn't be. If you get into an argument with a friend or you've drifted from someone because of a disagreement; can you look inside yourself and reflect on your own actions and admit your own faults? Let me tell you it's hard. Especially when it comes to friends. It's like you expect them to apologize, you expect them to admit they are wrong and you expect them to mend things. Because that's what friends do right? But if you're wrong how can you expect them to always be the bigger person?
  It seems a lot of people think they can do something wrong, or whatever the case my be, and then let time go by and then mask their issues with kindness. Your excessive kindness (or attempt at it) isn't going to resolve your underlying issues. Issues that might still be bothering your friend. Next time you and a friend get in a tussle really consider how they feel and how your own actions could've make them feel. You're not perfect, I'm not perfect and neither are any of your friends. Love each other. 

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